You don't want any woman larger than a Size 4 - You don't want any breasts smaller than a 36C - You want her to have a career, but not be so focused on it that it takes attention away from YOU (otherwise she is a frigid, career-driven bitch) - You want her to be sexually adventurous and kinky, but not to have had an adventurous or kinky past (that makes her easy, a slut, a piece of meat) - If she wants kids, she's trying to trap you; if she doesn't, she's a frigid manhating, kidhating, family-hostile feminist bitch - You want an educated woman but who isn't strident/opinionated/bitchy - You want a girl who looks like a model (stylish and put together) but not one who is overly concerned with fashion or materialism - You don't want a 'dinner whore' but if a woman pays for dinner your manhood is insulted - You whine about why women don't smile at you on the street, and when we explain to you that many men basically consider it an invite to harass or threaten us you discount what we've said - do you listen, or do you just want to hear yourselves talk? - You say you want a super smart or super sexual woman but you are totally threatened by them - You think women are there to validate your existence/good looks/success/blah blah blah - You throw your good looks/money/success/flash car around as bait and then wonder why you attract gold-diggers - You spew hatred towards women and then wonder why women can't stand you - do you think we're stupid? - You insist til you are blue in the face that there are no good women left in USA when there's actually an army of them - they're just not the brainless, spineless, 98-lb geisha dolls you really want - If you want a woman that is beautiful, in shape, smart, successful, gracious, etc., you just have high standards for yourself - If a woman wants a man that is all of the above, she is unrealistic, expects perfection, and should lower her standards and 'get real'. - You really don't want a woman who's an equal. You want a combo-platter whore/housekeeper/mommy. No one wants to be your Mommy, buddy. Or your whore or housekeeper for that matter. - You want the hot pussy but you don't want to be obligated to call her afterwards. WTF? - If a woman 'gives it up' too easily and f***s you without a bunch of dating and dinners, etc., she's a whore/slut - If a woman won't f*** you until you've had a bunch of dating/dinners, etc, she's a gold-digging dinner whore - You always talk about what women should be doing for you instead of what you could be doing for them to show them how much you enjoy their attention/time/energy - this goes both ways - You blame women for your dating woes instead of either asking yourself if the issue might be you or all the other men who treat women like s*** and force us to be wary and self-protective Of course I am playing devil's advocate a little bit, but from what I read posted on CL all the time you guys seriously do demonstrate the above. Guys (and girls, too, for that matter), wake up. People are people. I'm a woman and believe me, it's just as hard meeting decent men in USA as women, if not harder. No one has a monopoly on malice or virtue, but I do think men are by and large pretty ignorant of the daily reality of women's lives and what a struggle it is and continues to be. Life is struggle for men, too, but you are NOT subjected to the same type of BS (namely, sexual) we are (when was the last time you smiled at a woman on the street and she followed you and threatened to rape you? When was the last time someone got you pregnant and bailed on you? When was the last time you went into a corner store to buy a Coke and the guy behind the counter told you to give him a smile? and that's just the tip of the iceberg). Everyone just get real.
I've got to admit, there's some justice in it. I like her. Hey, young male readers, if you're in town, ask her out. I dare you.
This is why I think straight men have a huge interest in the success of feminism: Disappointment breeds bitterness breeds uncharitableness breeds bad behavior breeds another's disappointment breeds bitterness... Not to mention all those who maladapt in other ways: the promiscuity of those who have either given up on, or fear the culnerability of, love is just one common example. Others are less well acknowledged. Women frequently make light of how they "manage" the menfolk, having learned through culture and experience that men's brittle egos do not react constructively to unwelcome truths. Which perhaps exacerbates the problem where it exists by impoverishing such men's experience with alternatives to destructive criticism (at least from female sources). In cases where it isn't a problem, it can give a man the impression that his counterpart doesn't trust him, reduced his ability to adjust to his partner, and can even foster the perception that women constantly harbor secret negative judgements.
ReplyDeleteThe interface between men and women has never had the possibilities for openness and satisfaction that it offers today, but there's also a great deal of chaos and distrust during this time of transition that is perilous to us all. I don't at all blame the Craigslist poster - after all Lance is dead on to note that there's much justice in her diatribe - but she probably already knows (intellectually) that it's going to make it ever so much harder to find someone who won't wound her again if she doesn't stop picking at her past disappointments.
And of course I wish my male brethren would stop picking at them for her.